That day I became a Singapore expat wife
Ladies sheltering and taking a lunch break, while it rains at a MRT station in Singapore |
Singapore expat wife is a saying, the
name of a Facebook group. But it's not really a thing. Why would they
be called expat wives and not expats themselves, right? That's what I
thought in March when my lovely Singapore ladies I was in touch with
made me aware of this...well, status. Little did I know that soon it was also
going to be my status.
Married in January, my other half and I
rushed the event which was still a mere plan, as soon as he got a job
in the sunny south east Asian island. Admittedly, being married made
it a lot easier in terms of working visas and legal papers once here.
But my imagination could not really think of me as a dependant, not
as much as my dependant pass makes me, at least. “Once your pass
holder gets here,” I quote the letter the ministry of manpower sent
to the hubby “ please complete all the steps on the next few pages
before this IPA expires. Otherwise, we will withdraw the approval and
you will need to send her home”. Should things have gone wrong
somehow, it is not the state of Singapore that would have me sent
home, neither it's me who should have seen myself out of the country,
but it's my loving husband, by whom I now depend, who has to send me
home. Interesting language, I thought, but still it didn't hit me
until I needed a sim card. On my way to the shop, I got prepared with
passport and letter of approval as identity documents, but I got
completely by-passed by the sales assistant. All they needed was my
husband's employment pass and by magic I had a sim card! I was
shocked and feeling a bit like my husband was becoming my sugar
daddy...Soon though, I got to meet a few of these expat wives and
definitely their not-so-feminist name doesn't undermine the strength
of their choices.
A family taking a selfie at the Orchid Garden in Singapore |
Most of the expats who work in
Singapore are either in finance or in oil and gas. As a daughter of a
man who works in oil and gas, I know that often they have to go
after a job location given by the company they are attached to. I
feel lucky that I could make a pondered decision about my next
destination, rather than follow the lead of my husband's job, like
some expat wives have to do. But sometimes their choice can also be
strategical especially in terms of family panning: some ladies take
advantage of their stay here to start a family, because they often
don't hold a dependent pass that lets them work, or because they have
to put their careers on hold due to the uncertainty of the timing of
their husbands' work projects. While with one job per family there
can still be a greater quality of life than there is in Europe,
Singapore is also a great place for children and family life can be
so much fun, safety of the outdoor space being a huge factor, as well
as the easy and cheap ways to find help.
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Dependant pass in hand, I am also
considered like a resident. And yes, while I make the most of the
pool outside, work on my food blog growth (which by the way is
www.blenderandbasil.com
if you are a foodie!) and look for my next career move, I must
embrace the status, the name and all that comes with it, I am a
Singapore expat wife.
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